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April 14 ah gong joined ah ma
阿公joined 阿麻了，享年93岁。
我觉得阿公应该算是‘好命’的。因为在简约的葬礼上，他是子孙满堂的。
收起了自责感，我替阿公感到安慰，直到出殡的那一天……
家婆和小姨杵在阿公的棺木前，两姐妹带着哭红的五官，依依不舍地看着躺在里头的阿公，悲痛地嚷着福建话和阿公告别，
我虽然听不懂北马福建话，但是，每每听到她们哽咽地喊着：“阿爸……”、“爸……”，我的鼻子，阵阵酸刺。
看着家婆哭得如此凄凉，我的心很痛。我很想把她抱在怀里，拍拍她的背给予她安慰。
原来，不管躺在棺木里头的人是何等的‘好命’，对于丧亲的遗人而言，不论年龄大小、不计享年多少，丧亲之痛，就是痛。
遗憾是这样来的......I saw him the first time in Yr 2006. Due to weak knees, he used walking stick and showed us around in the temple near his house.
Though I failed to converse with him in hokkien, I looked upon on this old man - Eddy's grandpa (Mr. Lim). I feel warm whenever I think about him.
I met him again in Dec 2007 - my wedding banquet at Alor Star, Kedah. When we were up at the stage for a taost, I saw him sitting alone in the host table. I remembered it very clearly. And that was the moment when I saw Eugene approaching 'ah gong' - they were whispering before Eugene took off his brown jacket bought in Japan and helped 'ah gong' to put it on.
The next morning, we visited ah gong to say goodbye before departure. I guessed he was saying, "so soon you all have to leave?" when hubby replied that we'll be back to visit him during Chinese New Year. However, we celebrated our CNY at JB in Yr 2008.
We intended to drive up to Kedah during Christmas'08 when we planned to visit my aunties at Nilai, Malaysia. Nonetheless, I was suffering from MC pain, which subsequently delayed our departure, so we skipped the Kedah trip.
And... for some ridiculous reasons - tiring journey, insuffcient leaves, etc. we opted out from CNY'09 celebration in Kedah.
23 Mar 09, we received a heartbreaking phone call - ah gong has passed away.Ｉcould hardly forgive ourselves.
Sarcastically, this time - regardless of the air ticket fee, the number of annual leaves remained, the kilometers we have to travel - we all rushed back for the funeral.
This is totally absurb! When he's alive we have all the reasons and excuses to adjourn seeing him or letting him see us, and now...???
He's one of the few old men, whom I met for few times (twice in exact?). I have respect and I have regret towards him.
阿公，对不起～！
I demand myself not to forget the moral of the story! GO GO GO! Go and see the people, who are special to us, whom we owe them a visit. Who knows how soon the day is when by fate we couldn't see them anymore, vice versa.
January 29 2009 Chinese New YearLast year was my first CNY celebration with in-laws at JB.
This year in-laws drove all the way up to Kedah for CNY celebration.
Hubby and I didn't follow. It's such a shame that I felt terribly sorry.
The reason for not going? I don't find it valid.
Hubby said he has to start working on the fourth day of CNY. The journey back to Kedah is simply tiring and rushing.
Surprisingly, in-laws approved his agenda!!!
I dare not imagine how in-laws feel about his decision. I was a bit uneasy.
I've never seconded his thought, neither did I insist on joining.
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Then, hubby suggested we going to Nilai (Seremban) and celebrating our CNY with my aunties.
We had a wonderful reunion dinner (vegetarian). Thanks everyone for all the hard work, creativity, and superb culinary skill.
The fabulous meals and tasty snacks continuously pleased our palate to the fullness throughout our stay till the 2nd day of CNY.
Catching up with my beloved aunties, cousin Edward, respectable seniors, and friends added sparks to my CNY =)
I find myself well blessed in these few days. I was fully contented.
I know that it's a good sign of a fruitful year ahead~!
January 21 I see you, I see GodI have this friend, who does not have outshining appearance.
When she smiles, I feel that it's a
 from the heaven.When her tears burst out due to heart pain
 towards somone's mischief, I know it's the same sympathy God has towards his children in the maze  Nowadys, we could hardly find a resemble from God.
An angelic smile, a caring hug, a beautiful tear droplet with sorrow.
I wish I am that person, too. I wanna give a sincere smile from ear to ear to whoever I meet.
My
 says, nice to meet you again in the Milky Way, my heaven companions. January 15 Consistently fall in love with one personAnna said she couldn't see her boy too frequently; otherwise, she'll get bored with him.
I guess she is sort of knowing that he's the one. Her heart has been touched by him, though romantic moments are so fragile that one might have easily burried these up with impatience and negative emotions from day-to-day affairs.
Chinn's and M'vin ROM special gift is inspiring indeed. Why not follow suit?
I am suggesting couples to keep a I-Know-You-Love-Me box. Every moment you get impressed by your lover, document it down and seal it up in the blessing box, put a note on it even it's just a trivial matter. I think the stronger the love fundation is, the more refined the giving is.
The day we are 'trained' to appreciate minor gestures from our beloveds, we are a true lover. With this capability, I believe it is not hard to consistently fall in love with the same person, whom we will always say "I Do".
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Sir Beewrote:
Hubby's site started the piling work today. He was extremely busy yet he still sneaked out with me to CNY-visit Mr. Ng during his lunch break.
I was indecisive whether to join the crowd for other visits after lunch. Our 'auntie' discussion delayed hubby's back-to-work timing.
He was very tensed when we jumped into the car. Phones kept ringing. F*** slipped out of his mouth when traffic light showed red.
I felt terribly sorry for causing so much stress to him. Yet, I was lucky that he didn't swear at me and still talk to me gently.
Nonetheless, my inner me has been thunder-striking myself throughout the journey.
Lim Sir Bee~!!! Be a more considerate wife, please~!!!
Jan. 31
Daisywrote:
hehe.. I was like you! Twins to get it over and done with - pref. 1 girl and 1 boy!! But carrying one in my tummy is a mission already!!! Must catch up on my return
xxx
Jan. 17
Sir Beewrote:
oww... full-time housewife is to tease my hubby (shhh...)
 i'm gonna get rotten at home if this is to happen - cook, clean, watch Tv, surf online, shop, high tea, gossip, play mahjong, haha..
But at least now i know i have that option granted in my pocket, haha
And most importantly it means my earning is my saving, our household expenditures are on his take-home pay, wuhaha...
Babies are adorable. Hope that I could join the previlige club in 2 years time
 cross my fingers tight to get twins, then I can close 'shop' early and be a part-time mum
 x.o.x.o
Jan. 17
Daisywrote:
Full-time housewife eh!!!??? And possible baby production?!?!?! Yay - join the crew!!!
But to be honest - unless you have something to do, it's a bit boring being a full time housewife - unless you intend to cook, clean, watch tv and shop forever!!! I'll have a new hobby soon - baby-sitting!! xxx
Jan. 16
Catherine Chinwrote:
Are you sure full-time house wife is really what you want? Unless you are working hard to produce a baby
Jan. 15
Sir Beewrote:
Jan 2009
A big kiss to hubby because he finally says OK for me to become a full-time housewife in Singapore =)
He used to say that I am easily 'feed-able' if I were to stay in JB as a housewife, but not in Singapore =p
In reality, I could only afford to be a part-time houswife. I need a lifetime career, for $$$ and for self-recognition via my contribution to the society.
Jan. 15
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